A day to day acount of the whacky and wonderful world of Muggaz - i tend to be having too much fun these days, and often cannot remember moments due to debauchery - its time the internet repayed my loyalty by recording my antics.
Dangerous Misconceptions
Published on July 4, 2004 By Muggaz In Personal Relationships
This weekend was one of the first in a long time where I didn’t go out expecting to make some lovely ladies night… There are several reasons behind this…

a. I am completely smitten with a beautiful woman at the moment, I wont be doing anything to jeopardise my chances
b. Going out with the pre-determined notion of picking up isn’t healthy
c. This weekend was diagnosed as a weekend of practical research

I really have to go out more often with the above mindsets, because I have never talked to sooo many ladies in one weekend, and had them shove their phones in my face to put the phone numbers in! It was glorious!!! I think I offended a couple when I said I wasn’t interested in hooking up, but I would be happy to continue a friendship!!! This comment had them absolutely swooning.

I didn’t drink like a fish this weekend, so I was able to conduct cohesive conversation, and gather a little info from behind enemy lines. The topic of conversation was the courting process in Melbourne’s pubs, and the conceived attitudes of both sex’s… I learnt a lot of valuable information from several beautiful young ladies… invaluable information that will most certainly prove invaluable for future endeavours.

The most important little piece of information that I learnt was that female’s ultimate fear in the courting process is rejection. The positive reactions I got from the girls I discussed this with were nothing short of breath-taking.

They told me that the problems with them approaching guys are due to pre-conceived shallowness on the male’s part. Unfortunately, I really had to agree with them… these girls were stunning, yet they had these fears of rejection, this was where I shone. I basically let them know that guys fear rejection as well… and they way to beat this was to not even consider it. If a guy rejects them, then he isn’t worth their time… they were beautiful woman, and for them to worry about some jerk who sees only a skirt is a waste of their time!

The mindset of fear is damaging in every single situation possible, and fear of rejection is no different – get rid of this mind-set, and a whole new world will open up. I basically let the girls know that if any guy appears to be looking right through them, and not taking the time to engage them in conversation, then they really aren’t worth their troubles anyway, and move along to the next guy – not all of us are shallow a$$holes!!!

In the conversation that ensued, the girls told me that they had never thought of it like that – I was flabbergasted, these woman were 25 – 26 years old, and here is this young 22 year old guy giving them courting and relationship suggestions that they enjoyed immensely, and really reacted to!!

These fine young ladies told me the way to a woman is to have an engaging conversation… this I already knew… basically, If you don’t make the conversation interactive, then you have no chance… As a young man with plenty of interesting topics to discuss, I found this news refreshing. Another little hint I received was to act in a playful and clowning manner… this, I also have no problems with…

It was good to hear that beautiful woman struggle in the social scene as much as charming young lads such as myself… this is all due to pre-determined misconceptions though!!!

The courting process has been going for years and years, generations upon generations, yet it seems to get harder with each new social trend. If someone doesn’t think you are interesting, and treats you as such, it is no use worrying about them rejecting you, because odds are, someone else will find you very interesting!

This is the reason that the saying ‘there are plenty of fish in the sea’ originated…

Sure, it takes a little of trial and error, but don’t be afraid of that trial!!!! We won’t bite each other – that is unless you tell us to!!!

Meanwhile, If I can advise everyone to take the time behind enemy lines, you may like what you hear and you most certainly will learn from the experience!!!

BAM!!!

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on Jul 04, 2004
Good post. And I'm sure we all appreciate the sacrifice you made in researching it.

I hate to generalize, but the ladies that I meet in the bars here tend to be rather shallow. They have low self-esteme, and usually compensate for this by acting "all that." Usually, they tend to avoid deep thought and consideration of their situation. So I am not surprised that these 25 year old ladies were educated by you. I've seen the same thing happen here time and time again (my best friend is a 21 year old, very insightful fellow like you).

It has come to the point that I don't even go to bars/clubs to meet girls anymore. I've found much more interesting companionship at bookstores, to tell the truth. Saturday mornings at Barnes & Noble has turned into quite the dating scene. Odd that.
on Jul 04, 2004
It has come to the point that I don't even go to bars/clubs to meet girls anymore. I've found much more interesting companionship at bookstores, to tell the truth. Saturday mornings at Barnes & Noble has turned into quite the dating scene. Odd that.


Yeah... when you go to a pub, it's a massive gamble... and all the chicks think you are there just to get into their pants... when the girls i was speaking to this weekend mentioned that fact, I told them not to flatter themselves... they absolutely loved that!!! haha...

Bookstores a re a great place to meet woman... you automatically have a topic of conversation, and it is fairly safe to assume this object of your desires will have half a brain...

It was good going out this wekeend though, As i mentioned, I am currently smitten by a beautiful young lady and this somehow generates an aura that woman actually apporach me! It was great... even if things dont work out with this chick, I am going to pretend it does so I can keep said aura... its like a +5 desirability aura! awesome!!

BAM!!!
on Jul 04, 2004
It was good going out this wekeend though, As i mentioned, I am currently smitten by a beautiful young lady and this somehow generates an aura that woman actually apporach me! It was great... even if things dont work out with this chick, I am going to pretend it does so I can keep said aura... its like a +5 desirability aura! awesome!!


It was probably your demeanor. If you go out knowing a priori that you are not even going to try to get a girl, you can be more relaxed and confident. I think people will pick up on that and respond favorably.
on Jul 04, 2004
Going out with the pre-determined notion of picking up isn’t healthy

what you are saying is, in part, one of the rules of the tao of steve. The Tao of Steve is a great movie! go see it if you havent. i doubt you have 'cause it's american and not many americans have seen it. but anyway, it pretty much comes down to this: dont try to get laid and you will.


the tao of steve

1. don't try to get laid. if you are even thinking about it you dont have a chance. women can smell an agenda.
2. display your sexual worthiness. pick something you are good at and then do it. dont make a point of showing off, just show you are a catch.
3. then retreat, because women want what they cant have.


thats the tao of steve paraphrased. its well worth seeing the movie. and its written by a woman so it lend credibility. hehe


if only i could get past the 1st rule.


good times.
on Jul 05, 2004
if only i could get past the 1st rule.


Yeah, that obsticle between our legs is bigger for some than others eh Jesse?

kekekeke

BAM!!!
on Jul 05, 2004
Yeah, that obsticle between our legs is bigger for some than others eh Jesse?


Keeps tripping me up.
on Jul 05, 2004
OooOooOoh... I like your article muchly... but i'm much more interested in finding out about this lovely lady that has you smitten and almost caused an about-face to your usual "Hey Ladies!" ways...
on Jul 05, 2004
but i'm much more interested in finding out about this lovely lady that has you smitten and almost caused an about-face to your usual "Hey Ladies!" ways...


Details are sketchy at this point in time... As news comes to hand, you will hear it first here at Muggaz Adventures... running 24/7

(Dont worry mate, she is more than worthy of my charms!)

Keeps tripping me up.


It's funny how this very same obsticle has a tendancy to make guys land flat on their faces huh?

BAM!!!
on Jul 05, 2004
It's funny how this very same obsticle has a tendancy to make guys land flat on their faces huh?


Funny "Ha Ha", or funny "This tastes funny"? Probably both.
on Jul 05, 2004
I liked this article too Mugz, behind enemy lines huh. I hope you don't mind but I'm going to use this to do a short little rant, it's all about what you want and the way you go about getting it. Depending on where you go and what girls are willing to be picked up. I think I'm kind of old fashioned, in fact i know I am, i just want a nice old fashioned romance with no games and no worrying about what the other persons thinking, or if I have to act a certain way or blah blah blah. These girls were worried of being rejected if they approached a guy, rejected from what exactly? A decent conversation, or were the actually looking to pick up guys? You was more attractive to them because you said no, but they don't want to be treated as meat? Aren't they doing exactly the same thing? In my opinion you get out what you put in. I'm ranting, I'm just bitter about romance and such at the moment, and on top of that VERY tured, sorry Mugz, ignore!
on Jul 05, 2004
Good points Sally.

These girls were worried of being rejected if they approached a guy, rejected from what exactly? A decent conversation, or were the actually looking to pick up guys?


Very few people go to a pub/bar/club to find a decent conversation. That's not to say they go there just to hook up. Sometimes, and this has been the case with me and my friends, we go there to enjoy a sports event or to play some pool/air hockey/etc. There are few good pool halls in this town, and so if you want to play on some decent tables you pretty much have to go to a bar. But having said that, I have NEVER gone to a bar to find conversation.
on Jul 05, 2004
tured....I meant tired, just proves it huh!

But having said that, I have NEVER gone to a bar to find conversation.


Exactly, they may not be there to just pick up, but they aren't there for a meeting of minds, because it isn't the enviroment to do it in. I'm not judging them, if that's what they want good luck to them, i just think men and women should be judged by the same standards!
on Jul 05, 2004
I loved this article...your so awesoem you know!!!! This special girl is very very LUCKY!!! I mean after all she would be a COMPELETE fool not to be into you!!! And I think it's time that you share it with the world! A guy like you deserves the best, and if that girl is what you think is the best, then go for it!!!!! I think your her Uber stud! lol

(look at our Mugazz, all grown up ...hehe)
on Jul 05, 2004
Best place to meet people is at Starbucks! I promise!!! Go to starbucks, there are always really smart people that are merely enjoying a cofee and studying or reading or working on their lap top. I don't know about you guys, but I love just studying and enjoying a nice frap!
on Jul 05, 2004
Best place to meet people is at Starbucks!


But I don't drink coffee! Woe is me.
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