This weekend was one of the first in a long time where I didn’t go out expecting to make some lovely ladies night… There are several reasons behind this…
a. I am completely smitten with a beautiful woman at the moment, I wont be doing anything to jeopardise my chances
b. Going out with the pre-determined notion of picking up isn’t healthy
c. This weekend was diagnosed as a weekend of practical research
I really have to go out more often with the above mindsets, because I have never talked to sooo many ladies in one weekend, and had them shove their phones in my face to put the phone numbers in! It was glorious!!! I think I offended a couple when I said I wasn’t interested in hooking up, but I would be happy to continue a friendship!!! This comment had them absolutely swooning.
I didn’t drink like a fish this weekend, so I was able to conduct cohesive conversation, and gather a little info from behind enemy lines. The topic of conversation was the courting process in Melbourne’s pubs, and the conceived attitudes of both sex’s… I learnt a lot of valuable information from several beautiful young ladies… invaluable information that will most certainly prove invaluable for future endeavours.
The most important little piece of information that I learnt was that female’s ultimate fear in the courting process is rejection. The positive reactions I got from the girls I discussed this with were nothing short of breath-taking.
They told me that the problems with them approaching guys are due to pre-conceived shallowness on the male’s part. Unfortunately, I really had to agree with them… these girls were stunning, yet they had these fears of rejection, this was where I shone. I basically let them know that guys fear rejection as well… and they way to beat this was to not even consider it. If a guy rejects them, then he isn’t worth their time… they were beautiful woman, and for them to worry about some jerk who sees only a skirt is a waste of their time!
The mindset of fear is damaging in every single situation possible, and fear of rejection is no different – get rid of this mind-set, and a whole new world will open up. I basically let the girls know that if any guy appears to be looking right through them, and not taking the time to engage them in conversation, then they really aren’t worth their troubles anyway, and move along to the next guy – not all of us are shallow a$$holes!!!
In the conversation that ensued, the girls told me that they had never thought of it like that – I was flabbergasted, these woman were 25 – 26 years old, and here is this young 22 year old guy giving them courting and relationship suggestions that they enjoyed immensely, and really reacted to!!
These fine young ladies told me the way to a woman is to have an engaging conversation… this I already knew… basically, If you don’t make the conversation interactive, then you have no chance… As a young man with plenty of interesting topics to discuss, I found this news refreshing. Another little hint I received was to act in a playful and clowning manner… this, I also have no problems with…
It was good to hear that beautiful woman struggle in the social scene as much as charming young lads such as myself… this is all due to pre-determined misconceptions though!!!
The courting process has been going for years and years, generations upon generations, yet it seems to get harder with each new social trend. If someone doesn’t think you are interesting, and treats you as such, it is no use worrying about them rejecting you, because odds are, someone else will find you very interesting!
This is the reason that the saying ‘there are plenty of fish in the sea’ originated…
Sure, it takes a little of trial and error, but don’t be afraid of that trial!!!! We won’t bite each other – that is unless you tell us to!!!
Meanwhile, If I can advise everyone to take the time behind enemy lines, you may like what you hear and you most certainly will learn from the experience!!!
BAM!!!