Females of JU - I need your advice!

hehe... yeah, suck it up!

Published on May 11, 2004 By Muggaz In Personal Relationships

Ok, here is the deal...

I have a good friend, she is the best chick in the whole wide world, bar none, and we get along soooo well... She has a boyfriend though, and knows this is the reason I dont keep in contact... every now and then though, I will send her an email, and the feelings come flooding back...

She knows how I feel, make no mistake, and if boy was out of the picture, well... you get the drift... but she is really pressuring me to catch up with her...

This is where the advice comes in handy... I want to jump her bones... what are some little measures I can use to test if she would be receptive of my advances?

Chicks will be the death of me... her bf is big as well, he could beat me up... but I cant help it I am naturally charming!!!

BAM!!!

Comments (Page 1)

trina_p

on May 11, 2004

You're kidding right? You want advice on how you can "feel" this girl out (bad choice of words maybe) about whether she'll be receptive to you wanting to "jump her bones"
Even though you know she has a boyfriend - who could possible kill you.

And you've been told she just wants to be friends??

Muggaz

on May 11, 2004

hehe... it sounds stupid doesn't it!!!

I need advice, because frankly, I think I have a chance... but i need to know how to make sure I have a chance? you follow me?

at least you see why I need advice! I am hopeless!

BAM!!!

imajinit

on May 11, 2004

can I chime in even though I'm not a chick?

Muggaz

on May 11, 2004

haha.. you already did!

go for it bro... yours is an opinion i trust and respect!

BAM!!!

Rev Zim

on May 11, 2004

Just talk to her, become her friend. The best way (I've found in my limited experience) is to just become good friends with the girl.

If she says no, then she (possibly) wasn't meant for you. It's that simple. If she does want to become "more than friends" (bone-jumping buddies even) good for you. If not, shrug it off (I know it's hard, but it's possible, I've done it at least twelve times in my life) and just get on with your life.

Here's the best way to figure out if you and her will actually get along. If you enjoy the same things, it'll be that much easier.

You play video games? So does she? Awesome.
You write? She writes? Awesome
You and her read books? Awesome

Just try to find something you both enjoy doing, either by asking her or talking to her friends, and invite her over or out a couple of times as friends to hang out. If she is having trouble with her boyfriend (I know rebounds suck) then she'll turn to you, her sensitive, caring friend. It's that simp-diffic-err, nevermind. It's hard, but just try to work the game as best you can. I know you got game (cue bad rap music)..... BAH! Evil rap! (flails his arms and counters with some Jimmy Eat World, Rufio, Reggie and the Full Effect, and Thrice). HAH!

imajinit

on May 11, 2004

if you jump her bones while she still has a boyfriend, then isn't it likely that someone's feelings are going to get hurt? i.e. her boyfriend?

is that inline with the 'Awagrian' way? (did I spell that right?)

Stay away from the girl... wait till she's single brother

Muggaz

on May 11, 2004

- I know... but anything i can do to get her in the single state of mind, I will be trying it...

Zimmy, This chick is one of my bestest friends... we both understand each other...

Thanks for your help guys... i suppose i will just go with the flow!!!

BAM!!!

imajinit

on May 11, 2004

but anything i can do to get her in the single state of mind, I will be trying it

so you want to get her into the single state of mind... why? so you can make her un-single again? just so you can sleep with her? c'mon man... you're a better dude than that...

remember this rule of thumb when dealing with chicks with boyfriends... they'll leave you the same way you found 'em... if she'll leave her boyfriend to hook up with you, what's to stop her from leaving you for someone else?

been down these roads my friend... no good is going to come from it if she breaks up with him to hook up with you...

kingbee

on May 11, 2004

what he just said.

few legal chemicals improve sex like adrenaline but at the end of the day, you're likely to wind up with a worn-out adrenal gland as well as a broken heart.

mignuna

on May 11, 2004

oh, cinderella ... *sigh* ... must i teach you everything ?

.

it seems that you have fallen for her because you were able to do so from the safe distance of "friendship" instead of ahem, "jumping her bones" from the beginning. you like her so much because you both know and respect her ?. *shock, horror*

and besides, i venture to suspect that her unavailability gives her more value to you in this respect - it is possibly a trait in your personality to have to "strive" for things. there is sometimes no other way to make a selection from the (pardon me) vast array on offer.

learn to ignore it, for now anyway. it won't be the last time it happens to you. as you get older, the proportion af "attached" people gets higher, and it will only get worse. i'm such a comfort.

failing that, i suggest you learn to enjoy it. (in a chinese-water-torture kind of way).

mig XX

Muggaz

on May 11, 2004

Yes, my theory of getting good advice when asked for has been proven!!!

What excellent guinea pigs you all are...

MJ - I just know I am better than her current bf... but yeah - I will just patiently observe from the sidelines... I had the notion of being selfish, and just continuing to ignore her, so i dont feel the pain of lust...

It's all character building i suppose - I will take her out for drinks, dinner, and a movie, and i guess I will go where the force takes me... I trust myself not to do anything stupid, and looks like you guys trust me that much as well...

This chick, I have felt like this since i met her... 2.5 years ago. We connected straight away... at the time, I was with my ex, and she was also with a bf, but the connection was still there none the less... I wouldn't be surprised if i married this girl... but for now, we must let fate decide!

Thanks

BAM!!!

kingbee

on May 11, 2004

damn

dat mignuna woman...she gots da power

gothic impulse

on May 11, 2004

So ...what if you do get to jump her bones?

Do you want a relationship? ..... and if so ...how can you trust someone who would let you jump her bones while she has a boyfriend?

Jess

Sir Peter Maxwell

on May 11, 2004

Muggaz i think you should attempt to mount her old boy, do not concern yourself about her boyfriend as taking another mans woman is the mark of a true man.

Muggaz

on May 11, 2004

Do you want a relationship? ..... and if so ...how can you trust someone who would let you jump her bones while she has a boyfriend?

Thats what she always said to me as well... If she ever cheated on her BF with me... how could i ever trust her?

and yes, with this particular girl I would enter into a relationship... she is pretty darn special...

Sir Peter, if going with the flow somewhat involves mounting said young lady, i shall have no aprahensions whatsoever!

BAM!!!

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