Friendly advice always helps though.
It was around Christmas time last year when my mate Dave was first breaking up with his Girlfriend... she pulled the friendship line.
Dave is a very similar person to myself... thats why we get along so well... He told me what was going on... and all i could see was myself in the same situation the year before.
I passed on the greatest advice i could give him at that point - She is a chick, she is messing around with you... dont be friends with her, just cut her out, and let her come back to you. This is the mistake i made.
Kate broke up with me, because i was too comfortable with our relationship. I had become the classic needy boyfriend - that my friend's, was the first and last time i will make that mistake. Who can blame me though... i loved that girl after two years, and i was comfortable with my affection, and i thought thats what she wanted.
Chicks just aren't interested in guys they know they have wraped around their little fingers... evidently - it doesn't matter whether they have known you for 2 minutes or two years, it doesn't matter about all the emotion you have let out, if you are not a challenge, you might as well say good bye.
Dave made the mistake though of pestering her, asking her why, for another chance, generally wanting to get back together... i am not saying he shouldn't have got back together with her, just that if he wanted to get back with her - he went about it the wrong way.
It was daves bday on Thursday... we went to the pub with some of his mates... awesome, awesome people. I had a great night. We then made the mistake of going to see his ex at a different pub, because she said she wanted to see him. Wrong move.
As soon as we got there, Dave saw her, she saw him, and turned around. She ignored him completely. The EXACT same thing happened with me and Kate. Yeah, he got to her eventually, but she made some lame excuse... it was his birthday for goodness sake, why do girls have to be so manipulative?
Fuck. It was so painful for me... while i am 100% over her, I knew exactly what Dave was going through. he is a grown man, and he was almost in tears - there was nothing that could be done about it... it was too late.
Chicks ask why guys have problems with emotions. When guys fall in love, they fall in love. Its not something that happens so much with guys, because for the most part, we are logical creatures, whereas girls fall in love all the time... All they think about are their emotions.
When this kind of thing happens to guys like myself and Dave... can you understand why guys become jaded, and turn into womanising assholes? Why should we invest our time and emotions into a girl that we like, only to be told that its not a challenge anymore, and we are supposed to be friends (great friends by the way - Kate wont even talk to me now...)
I will always be an emotional guy... but i am never going to let the girtls know what i think about them anymore... i simply dont care. If i find a girl that understands me.. i will play along, but i wont let myself be burnt twice, and if i have to come across as an insensitive prick to protect myself - it will be worth it.
I chilled at daves for a while after the pub.. he was obviously distraught. We both realised that if he had of taken my advice to begin with, we wouldn't have been in the situation we found ourselves in... but we also both realised, that if this hadn't have happened to him.. he would have continued on as a naive fool.
Things like this hurt, a lot. They are character building though, and my pain stemming from the relationship helped me learn ever so much about myself. I just hope Dave can learn as well.