Afraid Together

we are all a little scared.

Published on July 13, 2004 By Muggaz In Blogging

Uncertainty is basically a derivative of fear, we fear what we don’t know, and we fear the wrong choices. We fear the difficulty of what we know to be the right choices.

How do we know they are the right choices? We have to trust our intuition? How can we be certain that our intuition is trust worthy, when we are conscious of the mistakes we have made in the past?

Heart and mind are both strong in their own right, but how do we amalgamate these separate strengths to become the force of stability that I am craving right now?

We know our personal choices affect us, but fear of failing someone you care about accentuates uncertainty. It’s like a jabbing pain in my chest that is screaming for solidarity or release…

Is this a fairy tale? Or a sick twisted comedy for the lords of fate, who desire a laugh at our expense.

Love like you have never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching… I don’t have the power to manipulate fate, nor am I under anyone else’s influence…

Strap yourself in, and enjoy the ride… know when to slow down, and know when to waive your hands in the air.

The only thing to fear is fear itself…

I thought writing this would help… I don’t feel any better though… I am still very scared. We are all afraid of something… at least we can be afraid together.

BAM!!!

Comments (Page 2)

H-BOMB

on Jul 15, 2004

but the things I love can not be taken from me.

How does that work??????

CS Guy

on Jul 15, 2004

How does that work??????

Well, they could be taken from me... but if they were then I would not be in a state to care.

I love nature and science and the universe.

I love myself.

I love life.

I do not love my car (I like it a lot, though), nor my home, nor any of my possessions.

I love my family and friends, but my love for them would remain if they were taken, and death scares me not the slightest.

I love my mind, and the wonders it reveals to me. But if it were taken from me then I do not think I would be in a condition to grieve.

That's how that works.

Muggaz

on Jul 15, 2004

hmmmmm.... I really envy your development of complete and utter tranquility CS guy...

My death doesn't scare me - but the death of those I love petrifies me... maybe you can enlighten all of us how you developed this state of tranquility? how is that you dont care if you lose someone you love? how is it that you are not at all afraid of the uncertain?

I mean, I am a confident guy, but I still worry about making the right choices? if you dont worry about the choices you make, how do you know if they are indeed the right ones?

BAM!!!

mignuna

on Jul 15, 2004

"Heart and mind are both strong in their own right, but how do we amalgamate these separate strengths to become the force of stability that I am craving right now?"

muggy, you're referring to "reason" and "passion". as usual, kahlil gibran says it better than i ever could:

"... of reason and passion - your soul is oftentimes a battlefield, upon which your reason and your judgment wage war against passion and your appetite. would that i could be the peacemaker in your soul, that i might turn the discord and the rivalry of your elements into oneness and melody. your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul. if either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. for reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction".

mig XX

new-age nomad

on Jul 15, 2004

I just wanna give a huge hug right now, and the desire makes my stomach hurt, literally.

That is all.

Trinitie

Muggaz

on Jul 15, 2004

"... of reason and passion - your soul is oftentimes a battlefield, upon which your reason and your judgment wage war against passion and your appetite. would that i could be the peacemaker in your soul, that i might turn the discord and the rivalry of your elements into oneness and melody. your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul. if either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. for reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction".

That is some insightful stuff... thanks for sharing Miggy...

It's the best feeling when you realise your feelings are normal, and to learn they have been articulated into words in the most appropriate fashion as above - well, it's kind of reassuring that when someone is trying to understand themselves, they go a long way into helping you understand yourself.

Trinny... your emotion isn't lost on the monitor... i know you wanna give me a hug! consider you hug well received!

BAM!!!

CS Guy

on Jul 15, 2004

My death doesn't scare me - but the death of those I love petrifies me... maybe you can enlighten all of us how you developed this state of tranquility? how is that you dont care if you lose someone you love?

Like I said, I have faced the worst and come through it... Link

how is it that you are not at all afraid of the uncertain?

I've never really been afraid of the unknown. I've always been extremely curious, and encountering the unknown just seemed to me to be an opportunity for adventure and education. I'm not sure I can explain it better than that.

I mean, I am a confident guy, but I still worry about making the right choices? if you dont worry about the choices you make, how do you know if they are indeed the right ones?

I worry about making the right choices as well, although over the years I have learned to trust myself. I trust my decisions and I trust my intuition. And I have never been one to second-guess myself. I often put a lot of thought into decisions.

However, once I make a decision I do not let it bother me. If I happen to make a bad decision, and that does happen, I process the lesson of that mistake and deal with it and move on. I do not dwell on the past, but I use the past as a tool for dealing with the present and future.

One of the things that I have learned is that few mistakes, at least in my life, are irreversable or unrecoverable. I have learned not to be afraid to make mistakes, and so I can make decisions and not feel anxiety about it.

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