Relationship Advice for Blokes - Part 1: Meeting Women

the first of many

Published on May 13, 2004 By Muggaz In Personal Relationships

The way society has developed over the course of our History, it has been assumed that Guys don’t really need or care for relationship advice – I am going to put that matter to bed now, because every single day, I am witness to socially inept males who seem to be frightened to death of females, and they are constantly seeking approval from the fairer sex – hurting their manhood in the process.

This will be a first in a series of articles to help those males, who have no problems admitting that they struggle with the ladies, and hopefully I can provide a little insight into the way the female mind works. I know this sounds preposterous, considering I am a male, and I expect a rather voracious defence from some ladies – I ask these ladies to bear in mind that this piece is subjective, based not only on my successes, but also my extensive list of defeats – feel free to defend any point I present, however, I will be only to happy to justify why I came to said opinion, and I expect you girls will end up agreeing with me in the end.

I cannot emphasise the point enough that these pieces will be based on my experiences, and my psychological and social evaluations that each situation presents. I am not saying all Woman are illogical creatures, it just seems to be a rule. Luckily enough I don’t need a PhD to make that remark, and anyone who has ever dealt with any female ever, surely knows what I am talking about… If not, please tell me where you live – because I would like to experience the lack of experience myself

As A young man at 22 years of age, I consider myself pretty lucky to know what I do right now… I just hope that this information gets out to the younger brigade of males and most definitely the older guys who haven’t caught on. Let’s just call it community service of some sort! What is important is to learn from each situation, and approach each social interaction with a female as trial and error!

Let’s start at the beginning – Meeting Women.

There are a lot of guys who are naturally charming, good looking, successful etc. People think that woman go for these guys because they are good looking, successful etc. I categorically deny this is the case. Yes – there are gold diggers who will be interested in guys because they can ride around in a Mercedes and be showered in gifts, I will not even factor these ladies in, because they aren’t worth our time… These guys are successful, because of their confidence. Their success is often a by-product of this confidence, or confidence is a by-product of good looks!

When I was a young lad, and even today to a mild extent, there is certainly that fear of rejection… some snobby girl will just turn her nose up at you when you approach… It’s merely a head game that you have to get around. Do you know how many other women are out there, who are just as good, if not way better than this particular lady??? Millions, upon millions, upon millions. The saying ‘There is plenty more fish in the sea’ was developed for this specific reason. When you let yourself get hung up over a chick; that is bad medicine. If she happens to reject you, you have to believe in your head, that it is her problem – wish her well and all, but move right along.

How many pretty faces do you see each day, but you can’t summon the courage to look them in the eyes because of your own insecurities? Girls, I need you to back me up here – let the guys know that looks don’t matter to you half as much as it seems to matter to guys. I implore you gentleman to approach the world with your head held high, staring at anything that comes to you in the face – females find this very attractive indeed!

To meet woman, you have to go where they hang out. In my early testing days, when I was most shy of woman, I told myself I was being ridiculous… I went to a shopping centre with some mates, and I looked every girl I saw in the eye, and smiled! Most, if not all, smiled back - and some interesting conversations even started! Ladies are nothing to be afraid of at all my friends. A good social test, just go to a pub or club, or wherever one night, and walk around to various ladies, confidently and calmly approach them with ‘Hi, my name is XXXX, and I am just meeting new people – how are you?’ Sounds a bit weird doesn’t it? – but just try it some time… most girls are really nice! And you will make some new friends!!! Throw in some humour, and you will get responses, I guarantee this!

In summary – meeting woman is not hard at all, you just need to

A. Strut. Confidence is the key
B. Don’t get hung up, if a girl is not receptive, move right along – she isn’t worth the worry
C. Women are very friendly most of the time – don’t be afraid! They won’t bite! (Unless you ask…)

Next week I will be constructing a piece on how to get phone numbers and following through… If any other guys have anything they particularly struggle with when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, let me know – also Ladies, are there any annoying qualities about guys that really turn you off when they are interested in you? What is it about the courting process that you really don’t like? Your input is highly valued!!!

Until next time, this is Dr. Love… I mean Muggaz… signing out

BAM!!!

Comments (Page 2)

Muggaz

on Jun 08, 2004

Jake....

I am so happy that you took the time to provide that insight!!! I could not agree more!!! Everything you say is correct - in my opinion anyways...

People do have problems, and after the initial courting stages, if the object of your affections cannot handle any problems you may have within your life, then she really isn't worth courting then, is she? We cant help our situations most of the time, thats why the most important skill anyone will have in life is adaptability...

Once again, thanks for that - you seem to know whats going on

BAM!!!

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