A day to day acount of the whacky and wonderful world of Muggaz - i tend to be having too much fun these days, and often cannot remember moments due to debauchery - its time the internet repayed my loyalty by recording my antics.
I have never been here before
Published on April 29, 2004 By Muggaz In Personal Relationships
This is going to be a bit of a rant… I am feeling emotional right now, so I need some form of release… guess what JU – you are going to get it.

I feel absolutely crazy right at this instance. I am going to try to articulate it in words, If you have decided to read on, I wish you the best of luck.

There is so much stuff going on that is making me feel both ecstatic and rather sad. It mostly involves chicks. There are a couple of chicks who I have been seeing lately… now, I have always been a monogamous kind of guy, and the concept of more than one chick in your field of view is a rather foreign one to me. I am experiencing feelings I am certain I have never felt before, and I don’t know how to quell them.

Now, without going into too much detail, insane flirting has gone on with one chick, and some physical activity has gone on with the other. I just don’t know how attracted I am to either… I seriously feel like I am using someone, but I am pretty sure I am not.

Chick B, well, I am doing my darndest to make sure that she knows the score… I just hope she knows all I am interested in right now is a little bit of fun… yeah, sure, I am attracted to her sexually, but she isn’t the kind of girl I picture myself taking home to my mother. That’s what I always wanted in a relationship, a nice wholesome girl who has the down to earth good looks and personality… This chick, well, she is nice enough, and she is down to earth, but she wears far too much make up for my likings… I am being a picky fool here, but I find nothing more appealing than natural beauty… It’s early days yet, and it looks like she will be a good friend, but in all honesty, I don’t want anything more than that with this girl… a friendship with benefits, yeah, but only if she is down with that.

Chick A – well… she is a little bit on the daft side… I met her at a pub one night, and I got a text message a few days later from her… I can’t even remember what she looks like… yet; we have been talking on the phone, and flirting like I never have before. We had arranged to meet up on Tuesday night, I called her to see what she was doing, and she said she was in her pyjamas, and wasn’t going out… I sort of warned her that this would be the last time for a long time I would be available to meet up with, because I wanted to examine the situation with chick B (I didn’t tell her this of course)… she still said she wasn’t going out, so I just left it at that.

I know why I did this… we have been flirting now for about 2 weeks… and whenever I have proposed a meeting, she has shirked away. I hate to sound arrogant, but why am I wasting my time on someone who is afraid to meet up with me? Do I seem scary to her? Frankly, if I do, I am not interested in wasting my time and money and valuable sleeping hours talking dirty on the phone at 1.00am…

I needed to tone it down… she has sent me numerous messages since, but I have replied with placid answers, kind of hinting that I am not interested anymore… but she hasn’t read between the lines yet.

I was always the dude to get hoodwinked by the chicks… this feeling is something strange and new to me, I feel ridiculously empowered. The ability to say no is much more respectable than going with the flow and hurting peoples feelings… If I wasn’t careful, if I am still not careful, someone still may get hurt… that is the last thing I want to do.

These girls just keep coming back for more and more… not the worst dilemma in the world, but I think its just because I show dis-interest on most occasions, and I make them laugh… sure, a suggestive comment is not in-frequent coming from my mouth, but I cant help it! I am going to blame mitigating circumstances…

Where do I go from here? Before any serious pre-meditated mounting takes place, I really need chick B to know that I am not looking for a relationship, well, with her at least and that my entire outlook can change at any time? I may be getting ahead of myself, I just don’t want her to have any feelings for me that is stronger than friendship. I feel so wreckless!

We hang around the same places you see… and I don’t want her presence affecting my game in anyway when I am out… because, I am still waiting for my angel, and I know she isn’t it, but I am still allowed to have fun, and if she knows the score, I am happy for her to share in my fun – it really must be on my terms though.

I wonder how this little blog is being received by the *few* that enjoy my articles… I really have to say, JU is another reason I am feeling weird as well.

But that is for another article to follow shortly....

BAM!!!

Comments
on Apr 29, 2004
Wow, it would seem women really do like the dudes that treat them mean to keep them keen, hmm. I don't think you really asked for advice, but my opinion on it is this, enjoy the attention while you're getting it. I do think you should be straight with chick B though and let her know where she stands and if she still wants to carry on at least she knows where it is leading. Then no one gets hurt or I guess the other option is ditch both and just concentrate on finding your angel! If this comment didn'y make sense it's becasue I just woke up, so sorry .
on Apr 29, 2004
I know.. chicks are the wierdest creatures in the world... the less attention you pay to them, the more they like you...

BAM!!!
on Apr 29, 2004
muggaz, sweet pea. i feel for you in your hour of need !!!.

i, too, encountered many "impostors" before finding the good mister . hehe.

at a guess, chick b likes you more than she is admitting, and is willing to settle perhaps for less than she wants in order to be with you. maybe that's why you feel like you're using someone ? ... she is there willingly, and under no false pretense, yet you know deep down she's compromising herself.

i think it's great that you're attuned to this. a lot of guys would just "do" her without considering the consequences.

as for chick a. well, she may either be (a) genuinely interesting, or ( a bit of a try-hard. hehe. the only way to tell for sure would be to actually meet her again ... as you have been trying to do.

i suggest you tell her flat out that you were interested at first, but that you find her very casual attitude a bit offputting. offer her one more meeting, even just a drink at the same bar you met in (you can even both turn up with friends & make it casual - she may be just shy ?).

and if she doesn't show up, i guess you have your answer, precious.

...she was using the mug-man for his sexy phone manner and superior mind !!!!.

but mark, just hang in there. if nothing else, this is teaching you what you don't want in the future "mrs. muggaz".

you're a great guy with a huge heart and an amazing vibe ... don't waste them on worrying !

mig. XX
on Apr 29, 2004
Mig... you knew exactly what to say....

You really are something else you know?

BAM!!!
on Apr 29, 2004
Just be honest with chick B keep on letting her know the score.
Chick A hmm she either only wants you for phone sex or has something to hide.
Have fun and I know your angel is out there waiting for you.
OMG not all us chicks like guys who pay us no attention
on Apr 29, 2004
and mark, you know what ? ... you're something else, too . mig XX
on Apr 29, 2004
hehe...

Update... Spoke to chick A last night... she said she cant meet me for another two weeks... I told her that would be fine, but not to expect me to call her or message her or anything like that... If she wants to make me wait fair enough... I let her know the situation... I suppose she knows the risks of letting a guy like me wait... she is a nice girl though... I am not putting my life on hold for any chick.

Went to chick B's house with my house mate last night.. group situation... I am not really attracted to her that much at all sexually anymore, It just kind of went... they are coing over tonight though, so i guess I will know whats going down for sure...

bloody chicks...

BAM!!!
on Apr 29, 2004
I think that the telephone chick is playing the hard to get game and the too much makeup chick likes sex and probably doesn't see it more than that. The problem I see is not the chicks but you, what do you want. Another serious relationship or just some fun?
on Apr 29, 2004
Thats exaclty my dilema Sherye... I know what I want, and chick B can only provide a partial aspect of that... do you think its unfair of me to continue any form of relationship with her even if she knows this?

BAM!!!
on Apr 30, 2004
do you think its unfair of me to continue any form of relationship with her even if she knows this?


Yes... you are not doing anyone any favors by carrying on with someone you know is not "The one"... 'friends with benefits' sounds good... it always sounds good... but there are two problems with it. 1.) you run in the same circles with this girl. No matter what happens, things will never be the same around her once you sleep with her. you're running the risk of really screwing things up if you sleep with her. She'll tell you that she's cool with being 'bed buddies', but that brings us to problem #2) one person in a fuck friendship always wants more. if not at first, eventually the feelings will develop, and the overwhelming majority of the time, things end badly. I'm not saying its never worth it, I mean, I've had a few friends with bennies in my day... but they always ended with one of us getting our feelings hurt.

As for the other chick, if you don't even remember what she looks like, then she may not recall the entire evening either. Either way, she's definitely hiding something. She's prob'ly got another man, and wants the two weeks to figure out what to do... in the meantime, she wants to have her cake and eat it too, i.e. have Mug waiting on the line while 'working things out' with the other guy. That or she could have herpes or something, and she's waiting for her latest outbreak to subside. Whatever the case, if I were in your shoes, I would distance myself from this one.

Last and certainly not least, if you really are waiting for your Angel, then I highly advise against getting involved in any capacity with another chick. I'm speaking from experience on this one. My bed buddy came over to my house one night, screwed my brains out, and then gave me a ride to the club where I met up with my future wife... (it was only my 2nd time running into this woman I would eventually marry)... needless to say, I dropped the buddy to pursue the new woman, but as i'm sure you know, women talk. Monica later found out about Elena. Not a good time to be MJ.

I sincerely hope that helps you out mate...
on Apr 30, 2004
MJ - You know what you are on about dude... Thanks for the advice, It certainly is appreciated!

BAM!!!
on Jun 22, 2004
I knwo this is SUPER old and shit...but I decided to write you a quote that I USUALLY think of men, but it can be reversed I suppose.

Woman are like a disease and unfortunately we are all infected by it, and as far as I know there is no cure.

and for all of you people out there that think I'm a lesbian after that said, I'm not. I'm strictly into guys....this is just a quote to amuse Muggazz.
on Jun 22, 2004
Woman are the worst and most addictive drug!!!

I figured this out a while ago

BAM!!!
on Jun 22, 2004
I guess ...especially with you. Guys aren't a drug yet and I hope they never will be...lol Guys can be asses sometimes. seriously!!!!!!!!