Dont let bitterness eat you up... let Sweetness prevail!
Why don’t people realise hatred is a waste of time? Why cant people get over comments; and events in the past and realise tomorrow is another day? Another chance to prove your self worth as a human being?
I am a very proud person, If someone insults who I am, sure, I see the red mist, however, usually I will swallow my pride, try and see where the perpetrator is coming from, and forgive, It is in my nature! Why can’t the entire world adopt this little policy? I am simply an arrogant young lad, so, it’s easy to get over things directed at me, because I more often than not deserve such comments or actions, alas, society doesn’t find it as easy as I do to build bridges.
Society is just made up of a whole bunch of individuals… I have a certain friend that hasn’t gotten over something I said to them, and this is what brought up a whole new thought process, I ended up thinking about it as I dozed off to sleep last night, I can actually pin point the whole of the worlds problems to this general disposition among society – people just have a hard time swallowing their pride – whether it is my friend, or whether it is a leader of a powerful nation.
Just make a list in your head of societies current failings; I am sure you can link them all to pride and bitterness in some fashion…
Let me tell you the story…
It was on the night of my birthday this year – and we had just left MTC… one of my friends Nick, who I thought was a good friend remarked ‘lets go to the strippers – Muggaz has never seen a boobie!!!’ Yes, yes, raucous laughter ensued, I quickly remarked back “Nick, I have seen your sisters boobie!” and the laughter was even more prevalent… because this was true as I had a brief sexual encounter or three with his younger sister a few months prior to this… Nick stormed off in the midst of this laughter, and whilst I don’t take insults laying down, I realised automatically this was the wrong thing to say, and I apologised instantaneously. He just kept walking…
I saw Nick again a few weeks later at another friend’s party, I said Hi, he totally ignored me… fair enough I though, but surely he will get over it soon…
Last night I saw Nick at Sean and Caitlin’s house again, and I was totally iced on another occasion – It’s been like two month already, and I said sorry… what is the story with that? I thought I was his friend, but I guess not hey…
It doesn’t really worry me on this level – I will be fine without this particular individual in my life, however, as I said, it really got me thinking about a whole lot of stuff on a larger level, and gave me the profound insight that I can attribute many of the worlds problems on bitterness and the inability to admit mistakes.
What is in the past is in the past – It doesn’t make what happened right, or wrong – in any situation, but people must realise that something from the past, belongs where it comes from.
The most important thing we must realise is not to make the same mistakes we have made in the past. Making mistakes is fine –It is the attitude in which we make those mistakes that counts in the long run. We must realise that learning from these mistakes is the most important thing we can do.
Bitterness eats you up inside, and it does have a most adverse affect on the ability to live a good and pleasant life. I implore everyone who reads this to identify something that is eating them up inside, and make your darndest effort to get over it, because not only you suffer from your bitterness and hatred – those around you suffer as well. I am offering my personal services as a 'bitterness councelor' and I am sure many of our JU friends would be willing to help you work through your issues - There may be someone who is bitter towards you, and you may or may not know why - but it's your responsibility to make sure they, and you know you are at peace with yourself, and those around you.
Or you can just remain bitter, and die old and lonely... and smelly.
BAM!!!