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It's True - coming from a man!
Published on August 17, 2004 By Muggaz In Personal Relationships
I heard a great joke once:

"Women are more psychic than men. A woman is always the first to know if you're going to get laid."

hehehe

Let me ask you a few questions.

Have you ever met an attractive girl somewhere, and wound up having a good conversation... and during the conversation you realized that you'd really like to get this girl's number and go out with her sometime... but the more you talked, the less comfortable and more nervous you became?

Or have you ever been out on a date with a woman, and you could "feel" yourself losing control of the situation? Somehow you realize that she knows how much you want her... and she's becoming less interested the more she figures you out...

You know that feeling when your stomach feels like it just fell out of your body?

Or maybe you're spending some time with a woman that you're interested in at your place or hers. The evening is going well, and the conversation is "nice". You begin wondering how you're going to "make your move", but you just can't figure out how to go from "nice conversation" to "making out". All of a sudden, as you're trying to figure it out, she starts becoming colder and more "friendlike" towards you... and hinting that it's time to wrap up for the evening.

You know that feeling of desperation that just creeps in and takes over your mind when things are COMPLETELY going in the wrong direction?

Now let me ask you an even more intense question...

DOESN'T THIS SUCK?

Don't you HATE it when you feel totally out of control, and have that sneaking suspicion that the woman you're with knows that she's the one behind the wheel?

Well, the BAD NEWS is that if you can identify with this idea, then YOU'RE THE ONE who's causing it.

Yep, you read that right.

It's ALL YOU.

You're doing it to YOURSELF.

But there is some GOOD NEWS as well.

In fact, it's actually AMAZING news.

The reality of this situation is that because it's YOU that's CAUSING these situations, you can CHANGE them as well. And you can even TURN IT AROUND.

You can take the same dynamic that's causing you to LOSE control of these situations and use it to TAKE control of them.

I hope I have your interest.

Read on to learn a secret that has taken me several YEARS to figure out.

MEN PURSUE WOMEN

Generally speaking, men pursue women.

Men court, women "play hard to get".

Men may be physically stronger, but just about everything they do with their "strengths" is ultimately centered around attracting a mate.

In other words, when a successful man who has worked hard all his life to become financially successful gets out of his private jet, jumps in his Ferrari, pulls up outside of a luxury hotel, and smiles at the hot 19 year old girl at the valet stand, she smiles back and subconsciously thinks to herself - "Amazing that he would go to all that trouble just to get my attention".

Yep, even with all of those "trappings" of success, he's STILL the weaker one.

And they BOTH know it.

Ouch. Reality therapy.

In "Ideal Fantasy Land", we're all born equal.

But here in reality where most of us spend our days, MEN PURSUE WOMEN... and women are in control.

Men are, in fact, the WEAKER sex because of it.

Fortunately for us guys, I'm speaking in GENERAL. There are exceptions. And I want YOU to become ONE OF THEM.

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE WEAKER SEX

I'm fascinated by this particular topic.

It's probably because I used to be the POSTER CHILD for the weak, Wussy, ass-kissing guy who wanted women's approval... and I've lived through so many painful situations with women that I should be given an honorary GOLD MEDAL in the sport.

My Inner Wussy was on STEROIDS for so many years that I had to take extreme measures to take control back.

Whatever.

The point is that this stuff really fascinates me.

Here's how I see this particular topic:

1) Everything that men strive to achieve is somehow connected to attracting a mate (or mates). Underneath it all, attracting women is at the core.

2) Men pursue women. They behave as if a single, attractive woman is a rare and valuable thing that deserves special attention. They carefully take every step as they pursue a woman because they fear that she'll reject them.

3) Men are clearly obsessed with ultimately getting women "into bed". They give away much of their power in the hopes that it will help them "get laid".

4) Men believe that GETTING APPROVAL will ultimately give them a higher chance of HAVING SEX. They think that if they can please a woman and prove that they can provide for a woman, she'll be more likely to be ATTRACTED to them.

5) A man's powerful drive to ultimately have sex is his "Achilles Heel"... it's his greatest weakness... and most men allow it to be used against them.

6) A woman INSTANTLY recognizes one of these men who lives in the FANTASY WORLD that I've just described. And women are NEVER attracted to men who want to hand over their power in exchange for approval.

7) The reality of the situation is that single, attractive women are EVERYWHERE. They're about as rare as Starbucks Coffee, Ford Explorers, and pictures of Pamela Anderson’s nasty bleached hair and fake boobs... and the more you shake yourself out of your fantasy world and act as if what is true IS true, the more successful you'll become.

HOW TO STOP BEING THE WEAKER SEX... AND HAVE MORE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

I'm already getting a little big long-winded here, so let me land the plane for you.

If you have been reading and nodding your head all the way along, then it's time for you to TAKE CONTROL of the situation!

First, you need to need to realise that if you keep thinking and behaving this way, you're going to keep exposing and being hurt by your big weakness. The "Achilles Heel" that I mentioned before will continue to be your downfall. Stop thinking and acting weak.

Women NEVER feel ATTRACTION for men who use weakness to get approval.

Stop thinking that being "nice" and getting a woman's approval is going to make her feel ATTRACTION for you. It won't. Ever.

Here are a few more tips:

1) Stop living in the illusion that attractive single women are rare.

2) Stop behaving as if she's in control because she controls whether or not you have sex.

3) Start raising your standards, focusing on having a great life, and turning a selective eye to her.

4) Put the entire idea of "the objective is sex" aside for the time being, so she no longer has leverage over you... and take the attitude of "Attractive single women are everywhere, and if this doesn't go anywhere, it's going to take me all of about 30 seconds to meet ten more “interesting women"... and even go so far as to CALL HER on any subtle behaviours or communication that say "I'm in control because I control the sex".

This sets up the situation perfectly.

When a woman realizes that she's with a man who isn't controlled by her or the fact that she gets to choose whether or not he has sex with her and he knows how to create and amplify ATTRACTION, she's MUCH more likely to WANT to have sex with him.

And if he knows what to do when it's time to "get physical", and it happens in a smooth, comfortable way, he's at least a hundred TIMES more likely to be successful. Now, this one idea that I've communicated here will take you a LONG, LONG WAY with women. If you really "internalize" it and start LIVING IT, women will respond differently to you.

But there's more.

You also need to have the key skills of making a woman FEEL ATTRACTION with your body language and communication... and taking things to a "physical level" smoothly so a woman enjoys it and even INITIATES it.

If you don't know these two things, then all the confidence, good looks, and financial success in the world will still leave you with the same realization... that you are a member of THE WEAKER SEX.

BAM!!!

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on Aug 18, 2004
Hiyaz Muggaz..

Sorry, couldnt resist responding to this one.. You said " And women are NEVER attracted to men who want to hand over their power in exchange for approval. " I know a few Dominatrixes that would totally disagree with that( In fact, know more than a few male submissives that would as well). And you said "2) Stop behaving as if she's in control because she controls whether or not you have sex. Ultimately she is in control of whether or not sex takes placeNow whether or not the woman is playing "the game" of tag with a mans emotions or desires is another story. But it sounds to me like you are saying that all women are manipulative? And that men are their victims? ~shrug~ Dunno, but it's food for thought.
Thanks for sharing

~Madd~ness~
on Aug 18, 2004
I know a few Dominatrixes that would totally disagree with that( In fact, know more than a few male submissives that would as well).


Hehe... thats why i said women - not dominatrix's

But it sounds to me like you are saying that all women are manipulative? And that men are their victims?


I am saying Men allow woman to be manipulative - chicks dont go out of their way to tease, and manipulate, it's just an inadvertant genetic trait... With men being driven utterly by sex, they allow the objects who can give them that (females) to control their actions... When men realise that sex isn't the be all and end all, Women will cease to be 'manipulative' Men are the victims of their own actions, not the actions of women.

BAM!!!
on Aug 18, 2004
Great article Muggaz. I disagree with some of the sexist generalisations but in the sense that I can relate and know people who relate you make a good point and a good analysis that is applicable to a lot of fellers.
on Aug 18, 2004
And to think I changed my ways, thinking that it would be for the good of things. How wrong I was (it seems). I don't like to be pushy, but sometimes I think I swung too far in the other direction.

Good blog. Insightful.


on Aug 18, 2004
When men realise that sex isn't the be all and end all


when exactly do you think that momentous time will come, (oh pardon my pun) muggy ?... i do hope it's soon

Men are the victims of their own actions, not the actions of women.


ah. i want this on a t-shirt.


vanessa/mig XX
on Aug 18, 2004
Women are stronger, because they are not driven by sexual needs like men are. That's the truth of it all, and until men stop letting their ahem lead the, women always will be stronger. However I have to agree with you when you say women don't find that attractive, and a man who doesn't seem to interested is way more attractive, I guess that's just human nature though!

Stop living in the illusion that attractive single women are rare.


I'm sorry Mugz, but we are a very rare breed!

when exactly do you think that momentous time will come,


I won't be holding my breath Mig
on Aug 18, 2004
Mugz, I like this article. Good insights with a bit of depth. I think that women are the stronger sex because they’re more in touch with their ‘inner feelings’ than blokes are. Most men assume that strength is determined by external factors, such as a nice car, lots of money, rippling muscles, or a big cock. Yet this is only attractive in a superficial sense, and most women find it easy to see through. They can soon sense whether a fella is inwardly weak and insecure, or strong and secure, regardless of external factors.

Real attraction, like beauty, comes from within. Women have known this for eons. Men are getting there. At least I hope so. Okay, so this is generalising. But either way, the roots of a healthy, strong and attractive life are seeded within the spirit. Externals can follow suit, in a secondary sense. But men, in general, believe that it’s the other way round. I think that we’re the weaker sex because we’ve got our priorities the wrong way round.
on Aug 18, 2004
So this is why I never like those nice guys who chase me and I go for the disinterested arseholes...

You get an insightful for this one, Mugz.

Suz xxx
on Aug 18, 2004
Real attraction, like beauty, comes from within. Women have known this for eons. Men are getting there. At least I hope so. Okay, so this is generalising. But either way, the roots of a healthy, strong and attractive life are seeded within the spirit. Externals can follow suit, in a secondary sense. But men, in general, believe that it’s the other way round. I think that we’re the weaker sex because we’ve got our priorities the wrong way round.


That got insightful from me Andy.... I thik you are spot on.... Are you really Dr. Phil? or something?

So this is why I never like those nice guys who chase me and I go for the disinterested arseholes...


- At Least now you know huh babe? Alas, it seems many woman know this, yet they fall into the same traps... even after being the 'Stonger Sex' they still do stupid things!!! At least as men we have the excuse of being the 'weaker sex'

Building those bridges guys Thanks for your comments

BAM!!!
on Aug 22, 2004
Muggaz………you are right about women using men’s weakness. But did you ever hear of the man learning to use the woman’s weakness of having to have power over the man?? In other words, smart men know how to use the use of the woman.
on Aug 22, 2004
Muggaz………you are right about women using men’s weakness. But did you ever hear of the man learning to use the woman’s weakness of having to have power over the man?? In other words, smart men know how to use the use of the woman


Don't worry about that Marvin... I know all about it It's not something I care fto document though, because the ladies who frequent my blog site would not approve of me using such tactics!!!

That aside, if you do have to use those tactics to get a girl, you are wasting your time anyway, because she is not worth it if you have to be someone else to win her affections... The tactics are designed more for your one night stand relationship, not an ongoing one... in which case - no tactics necessary at all...

BAM!!!
on Aug 22, 2004
Muggaz: Interesting post.

In other words, smart men know how to use the use of the woman.


Smart men know that the only kind of games they should play with women are the ones that take place in bed. Good women don't set out to torture men and manipulate them into doing what they want. Good men see the value of a good woman and work to be honest and real with her.
on Aug 22, 2004
Smart men know that the only kind of games they should play with women are the ones that take place in bed. Good women don't set out to torture men and manipulate them into doing what they want. Good men see the value of a good woman and work to be honest and real with her


I call it the 20/80 rule TW - Only 20% of woman are worth pursuing, and 80% are morons... the 80% are the ones that will use the manipulative tactics, and they are the ones that Marvin was referring too.

The 20% are the nice girls, usually excessively shy, hence harder honest and real work - and the resulting benefits of a fruitful relationship make it all worth while!

BAM!!!
on Nov 27, 2004
Thank you for putting into words what I have been trying to explain to my son and his friends.



Success in a Club goes like this. Go in, look around and pick the 6 girls that you are most attracted to. Then start at the top and work your way down asking them to dance. The worst they can do is say no.

My wife was #1 one night and she said no. So I said thanks anyway and moved on, Later that night she asked me to dance.! The next six months of our relationship consisted of me telling her I had other things to do every other weekend or so ( whether I did or not). I'll give her this she was persistent and she finally got me.

I was not being arrogant, I just was not going to be controlled. I had been there and done that and it sucked.
on Nov 27, 2004
Stop thinking that being "nice" and getting a woman's approval is going to make her feel ATTRACTION for you. It won't. Ever.


But actually BEING nice sometimes will...and by that I mean that being a genuinely nice person- not behaving nicely in order to get something.

chicks dont go out of their way to tease, and manipulate, it's just an inadvertant genetic trait


I have to take exception here and say that women may tease and manipulate because they have found it to be an effective way to get what they want. And it's worked because men responded to it. Manipulation is not a genetic trait!
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