When one has a massive amount of respect for ones self, you really must consider the company you keep. This certainly holds true when choosing a partner - someone you can spend numerous hours with at any one time, and this may be my eventual downfall, and I may die a lonely old man - but I don't think so.
Unfortunately in society today their is the disposition that it is the females that do the choosing as far as relationships go. I don't prophesise to be a great psychologist, but this is how I see the situation, and I am no fool. I invite any contradictions, or any defence - but it is the girls that always have their little tests. Whether they are doing it sub-consciously or not, they are always testing the males around them for relationship worthiness, or just a good time worthiness. When a male has the capacity to spot these little tests and breeze through them, they will find social interaction with the ladies much easier.
I guess you could say I have been lucky enough to learn this through a little but of study and luck - and now I know how to react a lot better in certain situations than I ever did in my naive youth. Now I know exactly what I want in a girl, and I refuse to be qualified by them - if a chick doesn't like me or find me attractive, I can deal with that, they are obviously whack. What I really cant stand is dudes who don't get the message... If a girl doesn't like you, if you hang around and be her 'friend' it wont increase your chances of hooking up at a later date... it actually decreases them.
Let me just add I am talking about my social environment. I am talking about girls within my own age group - 18- 25. When they get older, they tend to realise how stupid they were in their youth, but I wont tell you about that - I request that one of my friendly female readers perhaps recalls such feelings and developments... hehe, goddamn I am arrogant!!! hehe...
The point I am arriving to is that ladies can continue to qualify men to see if they are acceptable, whatever, if that's what they have to do, then so be it - I just hope they realise they really cant learn anything major about a guy from their stupid little tests. I feel empowered though, I feel great, because now, its actually me qualifying the girls.
Recently, I have been blessed with a lot of interest from the finer of the species... and 18 months ago, I would have jumped on anything that presented itself - such was my desperation and insecurities left over from my last failed relationship, but now I have had time to think about it, and actually study a little bit on the psychology aspect of dealing with any woman.
I may be guilty of over analysing in any particular situation, but that is a liberty I am affording myself in the game called life - I know everything will always work out for the best eventually, and each situation needs to be judged on it's own merits, It just feel's good to be aboard the clue train.
This is all coming to light because now I must use the selection process... What is it in a girl that I think holds the most importance? Its called the rule of 33.recurring 3% There are 3 basic fundamentals I look for when it comes to females...
Out of 100% the genetic makeup of said female must have 3 general cornerstones - Personality, Intelligence and Looks. Ideally - each of these sectors would make up 33.recurring 3% of the genetic makeup in a girl. I have to ask these questions because one of the particular girls at the moment isn't the sharpest tool in the shed, but I need to decide whether the looks and personality are strong enough to counter the lack of intelligence. Its the same with all the characteristics - of course there aren't many ladies out there with a perfect 1/3 makeup of these traits, so you have to compromise.
Some fools are stupid enough to go for a 90% looks, 5% intelligence and 5% personality - these people who go for these traits deserve each other - idiots attract idiots. at the other end of the spectrum, there are girls out there who are 50% personality, 40% intelligence and 10% looks, I also cant agree with this, because I believe sexual attraction is a fundamental of any relationship, and without, all you have is a strong friendship - which is great, but I am not talking about friendships am I?
I like to have a bit of time before I make my choices, and weigh up the pro's and cons - I guess I feel somewhat superior to females in that respect, because a guy can fudge up one of these little tests, and that is it for him. You know what the best thing is about growing up for me right now? I am over my crazy hormonal sex is everything phase, and I know that isn't the be all and end all in life... a far cry to my rampant testosterone charged youth!
In reality - there are a lot of guys out there who will never understand how the female brain works, and I most certainly don't claim that knowledge, but I know how to react to their little games now, and I also know how to get the most out of any relationship, I feel like I am in a very important stage in my life at the moment, and I look forward to seeing what the future holds, Life is all about choices, and I feel equipped to make the right ones as far as relationships are concerned.
BAM!!!